(This post contains affiliate links) Being a stay-at-home mom, or a work-from-home mom is great…there are so many benefits. We get to spend lots of time with our children, doing plenty of wonderful things; if one of the kids is sick, we don’t have to take them along to the office and try hide them from the boss, we get to deal with all that phlegm and fun stuff in the comfort of our own home. If there’s a big school project due for tomorrow, that your oldest just found out about, of course, there’s plenty of space to spread out and get busy. I mean, in any case, you’ve got the whole day to tidy up the mess afterwards… 😉 Activity after activity, chore after chore, many of them great, many of them a bore…
Not that i’m complaining. It is just that sometimes i’ll turn on the news, and hear the weather guy launch into his forecast,” Good morning everyone, blah blah blah… looks like we’re in for another beautifully sunny Thursday…” and i almost fall off my seat. Thursday!?! Seriously? Where did the days go? All too often, us stay-at-home moms or work-at-home moms get caught up in a ‘
vicious mildly nasty cycle’. Especially with little kids, sometimes leaving the house can seem like an unattainable goal. The big fight or long discussion to get the little one into their car seat or stroller just doesn’t seem worth the hassle, especially seeing as how you’ve worked so hard to create a beautiful, safe, educationally stimulating space for your child at home. And so we don’t go out. The danger is that this kind of isolation can lead to stress and even depression.
Each person has different needs, but i think getting out of the house a couple of times a week, even just for half an hour at a time, can make a huge difference to a woman’s feeling of balance. If that means pulling some strings and getting the in-laws or an aunty to watch the kids for a bit, do it! If you need to hire a babysitter once in a while, don’t feel like you’re letting anyone down or being less of a mom. It’s important to look after yourself, so that you can give your family even more!
Here are some ideas for a few changes that you can make that will help you create a routine that reduces your sense of isolation and stress. You might even find that you pick up some extra energy in the process, and i know i could always do with a little more of that!
1. Join a local group or club – this could be anything, from the PTA at your child’s school, to a book club in your area. This kind of activity is great because you get to meet people with similar interests, and it generally is not too time consuming. Just be sure to not take on too many extra responsibility (unless you’re a person that thrives under that kind of pressure).
2. Join a gym – Joining a gym has many benefits. Apart from the obvious health benefits (such as decreased cholesterol and better general fitness), regular exercise results in a pretty noticeable increase in energy levels. Most gyms have a daycare center, so you can take the kids along, and you’ll probably end up meeting other moms just like you.
3. Volunteer – Volunteering is a great way to get out of the house for a bit, meet new people and do a whole bunch of good all at the same time. Choose a cause that is close to your heart, and i promise you, you will go home feeling happy and energized, and be able to give a whole lot more back to your family. If you’re a work-at-home mom, you could try and find a volunteer position in something that ties into your business, and perhaps blog about the experience, promoting the organization and your business at the same time.
4. Network – If you’re a work-at-home mom with your own business, why not join the local small business association or similar networking group. Entrepreneurs often want to get out and meet other like-minded business people, and this could be a great way to get out, grow your business and meet some new people.
5. Get a (very) part-time job – I know, this sounds a little strange, right? You quit the rat-race so you could stay home… but getting a 1 or 2 day a week job (Saturday mornings at the florist or Friday afternoons in the art supply store) can be a great way to get out of the house and interact with a constant stream of new people. Having a little extra cash also never hurt anybody, now did it?
6. Get active on social media – getting active is not the same thing as just scrolling through your Facebook feed. There are some great chat groups out there for stay-at-home moms, you just have to go and find them. One of the best ones that i found was circleofmoms.com by popsuger. Another one to check out is justmommies.com. There are also great groups on Facebook, like Stop Yelling Challenge. Go on, even if you can’t leave the house, you can still get out there!
7. Treat yourself – A ‘mani-pedi’ is a great way to spend an hour (or two), but i know that’s not always possible. If you’re pressed for time, or strapped for cash, why not check out these great face and hair masks that you can do it home, with things you probably already have in your kitchen. A little pampering goes a long way!
In the long run, you have to remember, you need to take care of you too. If you don’t, you’re not going to be able to take care of your family properly. Love yourself, and give yourself just that little bit of space.
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Do you have any extra tips for dealing with feelings of stress and isolation?
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